Cancer Awareness Day

Caregivers are those involved up close and personal with cancers of all sorts as well as many other illness and chronic problems. Today I’m happy to post from my own journey. I am proud to be a survivor of breast cancer  and I lived through the years of caring for husband when he battled PMP. … [Read more…]

Does a Caregiver Grieve?

Does a caregiver experience grief? My friend Shirl would answer, “Is the Pope Catholic?” Yes, every caregiver goes through a grieving process, whether the patient has a life threatening illness, a chronic illness or a six-week recovery period ahead. The patient receives the attention. The patient is the important topic of the day, in the … [Read more…]

Educate the Family On Will and POA

Possibly professional caregivers can come and go on a daily basis without becoming too attached to the patient. But most family members cannot avoid the emotional involvement. To prepare in advance is a wise decision. We tell our children to have a savings account and if possible, a 401-K. Why not educate them on legal … [Read more…]

Share the Journey

“When you confront a problem you begin to solve it. ” –Rudy Giuliani “We often pinpoint specific life-altering events that left an indelible imprint on our lives.” Because of PMP, what doctors called a terminal illness—a rare cancer called Psuedomyxoma Peritonei, my life touches hundreds of lives in a day’s time. Yet I forget my … [Read more…]


It doesn’t matter if you aren’t a mental health counselor, it doesn’t take a college education to figure out a caregiver is human, with human needs, and dumped into the middle of tough times. Sometimes caregivers need to find a key to unlock the mystery of coping. Suggestion: Make yourself a cheat sheet to help … [Read more…]

Why Do We Put It Off

“When you confront a problem you begin to solve it. ” –Rudy Giuliani Tomorrow I meet with Carolyn, a pre-needs funeral director: Tomorrow sounds like the word many use. I’ve asked my siblings more than once this last year, “Do you have your will finished?” They don’t say tomorrow, they groan at my nagging. But … [Read more…]


When we give our lives away, we gain so much in return. My parents modeled that type of giving from as far back as I can remember. For instance, when we moved into our home on 23rdand Madison in Eugene the front door of our home built in the late 1800’s, opened onto an ally. … [Read more…]

Donkey Delimma Turned Delightful

“Will he heal? What’s the prognosis?” Family and friends asked that question often when Gary received a diagnosis Pseudomyxoma Peritonei (PMP) in December 2002. I felt exhausted trying to explain what I did not know. Once I shared my meager knowledge with a friend, she proceeded like the old gossip game. By the time she’d … [Read more…]